IN MY WORDS:
There are many things about pregnancy, birth & babies that baffle me. Especially in the US. But, I think one of the things that baffles me the most, is "routine" infant circumcision.
You see, it's the word "routine" that really gets me. In my opinion, there's nothing "routine" about circumcision. It's not a procedure that is actually performed routinely. There are mistakes made daily. There are not two people with circumcision scars the exact same. Nothing about circumcision is routine.
Before C was born, my husband & I greatly discussed whether or not we would circumcise him. I was against it, but hadn't done enough research to back up why I was against it. So, we ended up doing it because his pediatrician at the time more or less said we should (& yes, we have since found a new Ped).
Now, my husband & I BOTH 1000% regret making that choice.
I want to cry every time I change his diaper knowing that we chose to alter the way God made him.
I want to cry every time he gets lesions on his penis, also known as, meatal ulceration when he's teething & his urine is ultra acidic. If he still had his foreskin, he wouldn't have this problem, since the foreskin protects the soft, undeveloped tissue on the meatus. (The tissue matures as the male gets older, the foreskin is a protector for it until it reaches full maturity, then the foreskin will retract on its own being that it's properly cared for.)
I want to cry every time I think about how we made a choice for him, when he should be the one to make that choice.
After all, it is HIS penis. & only HE should be the one making decisions about it.
I'm baffled that the US has made this procedure "normal", because it's nowhere near normal. People in the US are appalled when they think of vaginally altering a female, yet why is it okay to alter a male's penis? It literally makes zero sense to me.
Even Dr. Sears discusses how there are literally no reasons to circumcise. More & more Doctors are coming out now backing these exact myths about circumcision. & it's about damn time. Most of the rest of the World realizes it's not something we should be doing, especially to our already vulnerable babies, so why can't the US figure that out too?
I'm so glad we have a second chance to make an educated decision about circumcision. Because we know all of the things we know now, we will be leaving baby boy #2 on the way intact, aka whole.
No way could either my husband or myself decide to circumcise him after we've learned everything we have about it. Especially after we found out how extremely unnecessary it really is. & how it's nothing more than a cosmetic surgery. & how there are ZERO medical reasons to actually do it.
For us, it's not something we will ever put one of our children through again.
Like I said before...After all, it is HIS penis. Not mine to be making decisions about.
I was going to spend a lot of time finding TONS of researched sources to back up my points & opinions, but I found the following blog post that did all of that for me. She says exactly what I've been saying & exactly what I feel/think about circumcision. I love that more & more people are seeing that it's really not something we should be doing. It's so reassuring to see statistics showing only 30% of males born are now being circumcised.
& that makes this mama VERY happy.
I truly hope that these numbers continue to drop & less & less baby boys have to endure the pointless pain of circumcision. There's a reason why places around the World are trying to ban infant circumcision.
Bottom line: DO YOU RESEARCH!!! Watch the videos of how they perform the surgery on YouTube. There are tons of them. TAKE THE TIME TO WATCH THEM!!! Read articles on websites. It's easy to find good articles with a lot of sources to backup the information. READ THEM!!! & lastly, make sure you follow your gut feeling. If you don't feel okay putting your innocent little baby through a surgery & you don't have an extremely good reason to alter the way God made your child...don't.
With that...I am not one to judge or bash any mom for the choices they've made. Every situation is different, no two alike. & that simply is what it is. Like I said before, we've made choices before that we now wish we would have made differently. I think it's part of being a parent. It happens. & will happen again probably.
My philosophy: Know better. Do better. Educate yourself. & make an educated decision.
& completely off topic, but I have NO idea why it's all one huge run-on paragraph. lol Obviously something is not working correctly... ;)